I wasn't going to butt in and yet I can't seem to help myself. :P
TL;DR My issue with topping/bottoming in fic is that it seems to bring a certain characterization with it. As if bottoming makes one submissive/feminized or somehow less than the other partner, like enjoying bottoming is a weakness or something to be embarrassed about. Not sure if it's the influence of D/s or Seme/Uke in anime/manga or if it is more RL experience. I know there are people who are strictly one or the other but nothing makes me back button faster than reading, "I don't bottom." I just know I am not going to care for the relationship dynamic as presented in that fic. In H/D specifically, I tend to write more top!Harry but with any slash pairing (unless it's expressly intended to be D/s/BDSM) I like to leave open the possibility they enjoy a variety of positions. The short version of my answer is taking it up the arse doesn't make you any less of a man, IMHO. Maybe I should have just said that first and saved you the trouble. ;)
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Date: 2014-04-21 07:40 pm (UTC)TL;DR My issue with topping/bottoming in fic is that it seems to bring a certain characterization with it. As if bottoming makes one submissive/feminized or somehow less than the other partner, like enjoying bottoming is a weakness or something to be embarrassed about. Not sure if it's the influence of D/s or Seme/Uke in anime/manga or if it is more RL experience. I know there are people who are strictly one or the other but nothing makes me back button faster than reading, "I don't bottom." I just know I am not going to care for the relationship dynamic as presented in that fic. In H/D specifically, I tend to write more top!Harry but with any slash pairing (unless it's expressly intended to be D/s/BDSM) I like to leave open the possibility they enjoy a variety of positions. The short version of my answer is taking it up the arse doesn't make you any less of a man, IMHO. Maybe I should have just said that first and saved you the trouble. ;)