Agreed with vaysh; I feel like I've been somewhat pushed to be... I guess closeted with officially stating a preference. I mean, I have, and anyone reading my recs or fics can probably guess (though silly birds throwing people off the trail with her preference by writing mostly the reverse)... But so often topping/bottoming *isn't* treated like a kink. It's treated like "oh must be 50/50 with no preference or else it's not a relationship of equals and if you have a preference, it is somehow also secretly internalized misogyny on your part"
And, no, I just find it really hot when a desperate Draco takes it up the arse >.< I also find it hot when there's dirty talk, or frottage, or mpreg, or bowjobs. *throws hands in air*
I mean, I think the bad name comes from the fic that treat the bottom as a girl with a nominal penis, but it reads like an old Mills and Boon with explosions of light and waterfalls and orbs and the like. And really backwards, misogynistic representations of helpless feminine bottom and hypermasculine alphamale top.
And I don't like those either >.< It's okay to like one bottoming more than the other. It doesn't have to mean anything.
*cries*
(I'm only half following DTH, but I love the ones you recced that I've read, which I think is most of them? I'm in denial about finishing my mpreg and am a bit overloaded with fests with remix/hurtfest/dth all on top of each other. XD)
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Date: 2014-04-21 04:46 pm (UTC)And, no, I just find it really hot when a desperate Draco takes it up the arse >.< I also find it hot when there's dirty talk, or frottage, or mpreg, or bowjobs. *throws hands in air*
I mean, I think the bad name comes from the fic that treat the bottom as a girl with a nominal penis, but it reads like an old Mills and Boon with explosions of light and waterfalls and orbs and the like. And really backwards, misogynistic representations of helpless feminine bottom and hypermasculine alphamale top.
And I don't like those either >.< It's okay to like one bottoming more than the other. It doesn't have to mean anything.
*cries*
(I'm only half following DTH, but I love the ones you recced that I've read, which I think is most of them? I'm in denial about finishing my mpreg and am a bit overloaded with fests with remix/hurtfest/dth all on top of each other. XD)
edit: Sorry about the rant oy